Family Rape!! My Father wants to Have Sex with Me!

 

“My Father wants to Have Sex with Me! I don’t know when this will ever end”, Martha cried.

Family rape is an issue commonly happening in our homes. This typically includes sexual activity between people in a consanguineous relationship (blood relations), and sometimes those related by affinity, such as members of the same household, step relatives, those related by adoption or marriage, or members of the same clan or lineage.

Incest is sexual intercourse or other sexual acts such as fondling, molestation, exhibitionism and sexual abuse, either physical or emotional, when it occurs between family members. It can affect both males and females and more than one member of the family can be abused.It is not, and should not be confused with, the normal physical affectionate contact which is essential in a loving family relationship.

We live with very close family relations who abuse our children daily and go unpunished.Most often the victims are beaten or killed if they would dare complain.They live under fear and are stigmatized  through out their life’s.They keep silent and at some level engage as something normal because of its cultural pervasiveness.The high unemployment and poverty-alcoholism rate in Cameroon is a root cause of incest in most families. Remember “an idle mind is the devils workshop”

 

MOHCAM is a nongovernmental organization where we strive to educate people and raise awareness against all sort of abuses geared towards women and girls.Most children in our community (Cameroon) are not looked upon as human beings capable of expressing their wishes and feelings. In Cameroon children are often spoken to as “do as you are told”.

Incest is a criminal act and must be punishable. If is not father, its mother, aunty or uncle, it’s a nephew or cousin. Incest is so rampant but no one talks about it. Our girls/boys are losing their virginity and abused.Some have had children out of this evil relationships and are frustrated in most communities.

Martha had come to the end of herself and felt that she should share her story with me, maybe I would know what to do.
Martha is a young girl of 16 whose father has been longing to have sex with her since she was 12.She has lived in fear and has not been able to share her story with any one.

As she told me her story I could see how desperate she was.
Her looks could tell how much she needed my help,

Tears were streaming down her face as she told me “I love my family and wouldn’t want my mother to be hurt and have problems with father. But father would stop bothering me. He wants to have sex with me or stops sending me to school”. She said something that touched my heart profoundly.

There was such a sadness in her voice, I could tell she was speaking from the depth of her being. It was the cry of her heart, her frustration, her inner war of values; she wanted to be free. She is not the only one going through such trials and tribulations. There are many young girls out there like Martha and they are in a dilemma.

Martha asked me, “What should I do? What can I do?
How can I survive and keep my family?
She doesn’t want to stop going to school,
Neither would she want to have sex with her father,
Or even tell mother or the police.
She loves her father and wants him to change.
She is confuse and needs your help too.

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For security reason her names and identity have been changed and Martha is one of the girls in the picture. If you want to help Martha you could contact us through our email motherofhopecameroon@gmail.com or call +23733051311.

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